fara
truth hurts
fara:...hmmmmm...yes it does…and does it ever!...but in this case...it is not the truth...it is abrasiveness and invasion...he (your buddy's new husband) clearly overstepped the bounds of etiquette and decency and behaviour...and in the process he proved himself an insensitive clod as well...
marriages are made in heaven in a sense...the real work at making it work is endless and goes on everyday…and those marriages work where couples adjust and reinvent continuously over years…though an outsider would never guess...to others it seems chemistry, fate, or good luck...not so...but in true t-fashion this was a digression!
...in your case...given where you are...can guess at the societal and family pressures to get hitched.
but
yara you are the new...age independent working woman...don't give in to the familiar and familial pressures...just remember...first...(if I may be a lil' crude) it is your body they are talking about...next, it is your life...the rest of your life...you are the one who should make that decision...no one else...
...you are the one who will live with the consequences of that decision when the shehnai has stopped playing, when friends and relatives have long gone, when the videographers has packed up their equipment...for the rest of you life you will have to wake up next to that person...
...there is always a fault line of what...ifs...but that is a common factor in all major decisions…so back to your I-log...it is your body kiddo...you decide...nobody can gaze into the future for you…will you be happy in future with this guy or that or with none...you decide...25, 26, 30 are all arbitrary milestones…wait as long as it takes...
now, the bad news....there is no guarantee that if you ponder and wait the for the right man it would work out...all you will be ensuring for yourself is the kind of person who will be sleeping on the other side with whom you will be gambling away everyday for the rest of your life...will pray for you...if you are lucky...you will a great time...arguing, fighting, cuddling, embracing, loving that guy...the onus will be on the two of you to create that chemistry...as i said will pray...but to reiterate...the work will begin then on...till then yaar remove what insensitive, uncaring folks say...just like the ashes you remove from the crystal tray;)
fara:...hmmmmm...yes it does…and does it ever!...but in this case...it is not the truth...it is abrasiveness and invasion...he (your buddy's new husband) clearly overstepped the bounds of etiquette and decency and behaviour...and in the process he proved himself an insensitive clod as well...
marriages are made in heaven in a sense...the real work at making it work is endless and goes on everyday…and those marriages work where couples adjust and reinvent continuously over years…though an outsider would never guess...to others it seems chemistry, fate, or good luck...not so...but in true t-fashion this was a digression!
...in your case...given where you are...can guess at the societal and family pressures to get hitched.
but
yara you are the new...age independent working woman...don't give in to the familiar and familial pressures...just remember...first...(if I may be a lil' crude) it is your body they are talking about...next, it is your life...the rest of your life...you are the one who should make that decision...no one else...
...you are the one who will live with the consequences of that decision when the shehnai has stopped playing, when friends and relatives have long gone, when the videographers has packed up their equipment...for the rest of you life you will have to wake up next to that person...
...there is always a fault line of what...ifs...but that is a common factor in all major decisions…so back to your I-log...it is your body kiddo...you decide...nobody can gaze into the future for you…will you be happy in future with this guy or that or with none...you decide...25, 26, 30 are all arbitrary milestones…wait as long as it takes...
now, the bad news....there is no guarantee that if you ponder and wait the for the right man it would work out...all you will be ensuring for yourself is the kind of person who will be sleeping on the other side with whom you will be gambling away everyday for the rest of your life...will pray for you...if you are lucky...you will a great time...arguing, fighting, cuddling, embracing, loving that guy...the onus will be on the two of you to create that chemistry...as i said will pray...but to reiterate...the work will begin then on...till then yaar remove what insensitive, uncaring folks say...just like the ashes you remove from the crystal tray;)
posted by temporal at 9/03/2005
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